if i had a dollar for every time someone called me a “type A” personality, i would organize all 6,000 of those dollars so they faced the same way, would google ways to invest 6,000 $1 bills and document who gave them to me in an excel spreadsheet. i am “Type A” to the max which normally works to my benefit in the sense that this type of personality is normally linked to ambition and high energy, but not so much that i can tend to over-dictate how my life should go.
but doesn’t the beauty of life lie in the fact that we never really know what’s coming at us? i’ve learned in the past few years that a lot of what i try to control is just, in essence, wrong for me. whether its staying in a relationship because you “want it to work out” or a friendship because you have tons of mutual friends … whatever it is. i’ve found so much joy and so many better things by letting things go, as cliche as that sounds.
the hardest part for me was HOW to let go. how do you drop something – a habit, a way of doing things, a mindset, a friend, an ex, whatever it may be? if you’re a close friend of mine, you’re probably sick of hearing me consistently say “if you control your mind, you control your world” and its TRUE. the best way for me to let go of things was simply to continually remind myself that sometimes i’m trying to control the WRONG situation, when the RIGHT situation is just around the corner. some things are out of my reach.
all i can control is myself.
i can’t control what anyone thinks of me, i can’t control what people expect from me, i can’t control how people react to me or act towards me or speak to me, etc. i can control my reactions, my thoughts, my actions, etc. and i do! i choose my life. thoughtfully.
don’t worry though, i fail all the time. i still try to control my life, but the grip is lessening and the wonderful things i never could have expected have shown me i’m on the right track.
Happy Monday to you, my loves!
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