life is simple. as. SH*T. guys.
it’s NOT HARD.
yet we are humans and we complicate things we have emotions and things arent black and white and we are complex creatures and we have many instances in life that make us differ from one another. sure, yes true, fine, TINA. you’re correct.
i think i found the simple solution to a happy life. i know this differs for everyone but after all of my findings (aka opinions) this is what works for me. i don’t mean to be dramatic or act like the car accident i got in was the worst thing ever. i get that it could’ve been way worse and i am so thankful it wasnt, but it did affect *me*. especially in a way i am thankful for. which made me realize.
while looking out over the East River? k sure, but i realized before too. keep scrolling.
i truly believe that the secret to happiness is to stay grateful, truly grateful. and yes, i know how corny that sounds. but THINK ABOUT IT. what do you wish you could change right now? your relationship? your job? your apartment? think of all the time you spend thinking about how you wish it was different, how you can change it, how you want to get out. NOW think about those hours per day (because you know for some things, you reflect on this EVERY DAY), what if you spent that time thinking about the parts of it that make you feel lucky? to feel thankful?
you chose that apartment because of all of the other ones, thats the one you wanted. you chose the job because after interviewing you thought “i could see myself there”. you chose the relationship because you felt seen, understood, butterflies, whatever. this applies to your closet, the city you live in, etc. etc. etc.
you CHOSE the life surrounding you, the life you tend to complain about from time to time. we CHOSE these parts of our lives. sit back and observe how many hours you devote to internally hating on something in your life for a week, then next week, challenge yourself to spend that SAME amount of time thinking thankful thoughts, doing something above and beyond, telling your job/relationship/friends that you appreciate xyz about them. do things that say “HEY THANKS” and watch your perspective change.
i’ll do it along with you and we can test this theory together. worst case scenario, we all put a little more gratitude out in the world. <3