YOU GUYS HOW MUCH ARE WE LOVING THIS WEATHER THIS WEEK. pretttyyyyyyy pretttyyyyyy pretty good. ps. if you get this reference i love you and would like to be your friend for life.
i’m back in the city (womp womp) after one of my favorite thanksgivings (yay!) and after a time of gratitude comes a moment of reflection, for me at least, to think back on what i may have learned or what i can do to continue growing and learning and being better all the time. and failing consistently 🙂
WITH THAT, i decided to start a new portion of the blog similar to what i had on the original AwaE that i’ll be titling “Lessons I’ve Learned So You Don’t Have To” – sharing small or large lessons in life that ive come to realize are worth sharing to the general public. let me know if YOUUU have any recent lessons learned as well, we can all be better together. or fail consistently 🙂
LESSON 1: It’s not up to you to decide what some else needs or wants.
LET”S SAY FOR INSTANCE THAT YOU ARE FULL ON THANKSGIVING OKAY? and lets ALSO say that you still feel like having a slice of blueberry pie because yolo, idgaf, or any other acronym you feel is appropriate. THEN LETS SAY YOUR MOM doesn’t feel its best for you to keep eating after a full plate of food and you say “WOMAN you don’t know my life!”
I realize this is an isolated incident but we can all learn from this in some way.
my point is this: in many different times in life someone will tell you what they need from you – be it an employer, a friend, a mother who is vastly underrating your need for decadent berry pies, or even a loved one/partner. You may, like I have in the past, dismissed these requests or decided that things can happen in your own timeline because maybe you know better. however, what if you were the one stating your needs? Would you appreciate it if someone heard your calm fair request and dismissed it all together? Probably not. Thus, if someone wants hypothetical pie – listen to them, and allow them to make their own decisions because they know better than you do MOM.
LESSON 2: Details. Matter.
i’ll cut to the chase. if you send an important email to someone that you’re copy and pasting from a different email, remember to change the person’s name. not a good move. read your emails twice.
LESSON 3: Follow your gut.
Me: this guy just sent me a DM saying “you are by far the most beautiful girl on the planet in my eyes and I had to be honest and tell you” but i feel like thats a little creepy so i’m going to ignore it.
Friend: no say something! DMs are the new dating app!!
Me: that sounds incorrect…
Friend: don’t say nothing. just say “that’s so nice, thank you!”
Me: …ugh fine… *sends message*
DM Bro: Listen i think we could have a good time together. look, i’m not some overweight 400 lb guy *proceeds to send me gym selfies of muscles larger than my thigh and a selfie of him driving in his car*
i knew i didnt want to say anything and open up the flood gates, especially after RICKKK, but i listened and acquiesced and realized, oh wait! i knew deep down this was going to happen anyway, i shouldve just listened to myself.
this also applies when exes continue telling you they miss you and they want to get back together and you’re like ugh i really dont feel like it but should i? and then you hang out and you’re like ew gross how did i like you and you regret meeting up and knew better but anyway thats unrelated.
or is it?
Lesson 4: Don’t look back – you’re not going that way…
(but do it for the shot if your booty looks good in your jeans hehe lolz)
let’s say you quit your job. you get fired. you break up with someone. you get dumped. you move to a new city. you make the (totally masochistic) decision to be vegan. YOU MAKE A CHOICE. what kinda time do you want to waste sitting back wondering if you made the right one? it’s a silly yet totally natural thing to dwell, to wonder. but it just makes. no. sense. friends. you’re smart. you know yourself. you weighed the pros and cons. so trust that you did whats best!
for instance – recently, i’ve considered going back to someone that was just…wrong. for many reasons. he made an enticing argument that sure, i considered for a second, but the thing is that – it’s one thing to give someone (or something or a place or a job) another chance if you feel it’s right. i’m a large proponent of “fighting for something” or making a good thing that’s worth it work. it’s quite another, though, to give 6 second chances. if something just doesn’t work, don’t waste your time going back to it. move forward – better things lie ahead, i assure you. i promise you. i know from experience.
Lesson 5: Most of what you worry about won’t happen anyway.
guys, i’ve spent the past month with many sleepless nights, a few breakdowns, a couple freakouts, an embarrassing amount of starting arguments (cute!) et. al. super concerned about some test results i was waiting to receive from the doctor…news that could’ve been scary. BUT i found out today that ALL IS WELL and i can carry on with life as usual and come back to see them in June and i’m GOOOOD SON. WOO. thank the LAWDD!! PARTY ON WAYNE.
BUT I COULDVE BEEN SLEEPING WELL AND EATING NORMALLY AND NOT HAVING PANIC ATTACKS LIKE A PSYCHO. so next time i have something weighing on me, making me nervous, NOTED. let’s wait to see if the “bad” even comes. most of the time, it wont. K GUYS?
generally, life is good. great, even. FaLL DoWn 7 TiMeS, GeT Up 8. i know, annoying. but true! learn from mistakes! bounce back! be nice to yourself, like speak to yourself like you’d speak to a best friend.
you is smart. you is kind. you is important.
i came up with that on my own, don’t google it, it’s not from a movie.
again – super curious of your own life lessons recently! share them with me here, or on IG, or in my DMs. just don’t send me your gym selfies 🙂 *wink*
loveyoumeanitBYE xx AP