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HI GUYSSS!! It’s wedding season! Today one of my favorite people ever gets married and it’s got me in the happy giddy wedding spirit! I’m sure you have a wedding or two to attend, and if so, I’ve rounded up 8 tips to be sure you are a wonderfully memorable wedding guest…although maybe not in the best way. Whatever let’s have some fun. Cheers and hope you keep your friends after this!
Dress for the theme of the wedding
Every wedding has a theme, or a look – whether it be rustic, black tie glam, etc. and getting dressed up is clearly a given at occasions like this. A lot people say that you shouldn’t wear white because it’s the brides day, but if we’re doing away with the “no white until memorial day” rule, this ones probably out the window too, huh?? I feel like wearing white to a wedding is an act of respect for the white like – I see you, and I respect what you’re doing here today. I will stand in solidarity with your decisions, my fellow woman. It’s maybe the nicest thing you can do as a wedding guest.
Enjoy the night and catching up with old friends
I don’t know about you but the weddings I’ve gone to are such a fun reunion of college friends or high school friends or second cousins that you never see! You know what reunion means in german? It means PARTY ONNNN – this isn’t fact checked but I feel like it might be true so let’s roll with it. Time to party like its ’99!! Get your booty to the bar and take 10 shots in the first hour and you will be everyone’s best friend…probably. Especially if you vom on someone, then that’s EXTRA POINTS. I mean don’t they give you an open bar so you can black out and act like a dumb dumb? Enablers.
Greet the family members
The funny part of weddings are the mix and integration of people – college friends, high school friends, coworkers…and then grandma and grandpa. I am all about inclusion and nobody deserves to feel left out of the loop, so make sure to invite the grandparents or uncles into all of your conversations, whether it’s about the weird bridesmaid dresses, who you’re going to make out with at the end of the night, or how badly the food made your stomach feel. Better yet, instead of grinding on your crush from 10 years ago on the dance floor, be INCLUSIVE as I said and grind on grandpa TOO. It will make him feel young again and show him you care about his feelings.
Be mindful of your phone.
Weddings, like movies, are a place where you should be very aware of your phone and whether or not it’s on silent. The rule I go by is that my phone is on silent unless someone may ABSOLUTELY NEED ME like the guy I’m texting, or my best friend asking me how my day is, or the restaurant confirming my reservations. This also applies to weddings – you know that bridesmaids hardly ever have phones on them during the ceremony so what if something is wrong with the cake?! And they call the maid of honor, and then the mom, and then the cousin who isn’t at the wedding but we used to be friends in high school and hes like “wait I think I know someone at the wedding you should call her” and then YOUR PHONE RINGS AND YOU SAVE THE DAY. You know what, leave it on as loud as you can just so you can hear the bat call if you need to respond.
Sign the guestbook
What better way to show your support for the lucky couple than by leaving them a short and sweet message showing them that you love the bond that they are taking together in front of their friends and family? Make it personal too so they know you put thought into it. Maybe say “f*ck b*tches get moneeyyyyyy sluttttttt!” so she remembers the unforgettable memories of being college roommates. Or throw it back to a recent trip you took together by saying something like “remember when that male stripped rubbed his junk on your face in vegas and then made out with you in front of everyone last month at your bachelorette party!?! I hope marriage is as fun as that!!!” – you get it. Something from the heart.
Take pictures to remember the evening
If you are like me and don’t always get to see your close friends and family, a wedding is a perfect time to take some pictures to frame and have forever. I’d suggest going a step further and doing something selfless for the bride and groom. Since we all know sometimes the photos they get back from their big day aren’t always exactly what they were expecting, take some pics yourself as a backup plan! But think professionally and make sure you really get in there to get the shot. I suggest standing in the middle of the dance floor during the first dance, the father daughter dance, etc so that you have all angles to capture the smiles and happiness of these moments.
RSVP … or not.
You know the drill. You see the engagement (on Facebook cause duh), you get a Save the Date in the mail, and then comes the formal invitation with an RSVP required asking chicken steak or fish that needs to be sent in by “x” date. Here’s the thing. You’re clearly going to the wedding – I mean it’s open bar and you’re bringing her ex boyfriend and you need to take the backup pictures. We also know how expensive weddings can be and by forgoing the RSVP reply saying you will go (and ummm of course steak??) you save them having to buy a plate of food for you and your date! This is my suggestion. Go to the ceremony, tell her THERE that you will be at the reception, purchase a Papa Johns Pizza and go to the reception with your own dinner in hand. I’m sure there are two chairs you can pull up to a close table, or right next to them at the main table!! That’s even better!! I’m sure they wanted pizza anyway lets be real.
Choose your date wisely.
Choosing your wedding date is a delicate art. You want someone who can have a good time but still be respectful, hang with the guys, get along with your girls, and will be approved by the bride + her family. You know who would be the perfect mix of respectful and able to be friends with everyone in the room and the bride probably totally forgot to invite? Her ex-boyfriend. God I should be like a life coach or something.
You guys, are you so happy I’m here for you to help guide you through the ways to be the best possible wedding guest you can be? Go into those summer weddings with your head held high, your bright white dress on and own those weddings as the best guest you possibly can be.